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"For the ministry of this service is not only fully supplying the needs of the saints, but is also overflowing through many thanksgivings to God."
 
(2 Corinthians 9:12)

Domestic violence and verbal abuse are nothing new to mankind. The first murder was committed within the first family, sibling jealously was the excuse. Cain killed his younger brother Abel because Abel’s offering to God was accepted, and Cain’s was rejected. Abel was a righteous man in his heart, and offered God a better more pleasing sacrifice. Cain in contrast harbored evil in his heart.
 
God knows our hearts and its intent.1 Abel was about pleasing God, and Cain was about pleasing Cain. "…but for Cain and his offering He had no regard." So Cain became very angry and his countenance fell." God asked Cain why he was angry. He already knew in His infinite Wisdom what was in Cain's heart, but He gave him a chance to change:
 
"If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door, and its desire is for you, but you must master it." Genesis 3:4-7

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Cain’s anger was written all over his face. God gave him a chance to repent of his attitude, and to offer Him a more acceptable offering from a changed heart. Instead of accepting God’s offer of repentance and ridding himself of his unjustified anger, Cain’s anger escalated into murder. When "sin is crouching at the door," this means that anger, especially uncontrolled anger brings about more sin.

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People who practice verbal abuse practice sin. And what is sin in its simplest terms? Wrongdoing! Isn’t it wrong to verbally abuse others? Isn’t it wrong to beat the daylights out of someone just because you can? Then let us be honest with ourselves and call domestic violence and abuse what God calls it, "wrongdoing" and "sin." Family violence did not emerge over night in our society, it has been happening since the beginning of time. Rape, murder, abuse and other social ills have existed for centuries,
 
In fact, Ecclesiastes chapter 1 and verse 9 tells us:
 
"That which has been is that which will be, and that which has been done is that which will be done.  So there is nothing new under the sun."

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Rape is nothing new:
 
"But the men would not listen to him. So the man seized his concubine and brought her out to them; and they raped her and abused her all night until morning, then let her go at the approach of dawn."    (Judges 19:25) 
 
Abuse is nothing new:
 
"Then Saul said to his armor bearer, "Draw your sword and thrust me through with it, otherwise these uncircumcised will come and abuse me." But his armor bearer would not, for he was greatly afraid. [1 Sam 31:4] Therefore Saul took "his sword and fell on it." (1 Chronicles 10:4; Judges 19:25)
 
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Violence is nothing new:
 
"Make the chain, for the land is full of bloody crimes and the city is full of violence" (Ezekiel 7:23).
 
Due to the disobedience of the parents of Cain and Abel, Adam and Eve opened the door to evil in their time extending to our present society.
 
Verbal abuse and insults are nothing new:
 
"These ten times you have insulted me; you are not ashamed to wrong me." (Job 19:3)
 
"And above His head they put up the charge against Him which read, "THIS IS JESUS THE KING OF THE JEWS." 
 
"And those passing by were hurling abuse at Him, wagging their heads and saying, You who are going to destroy the temple and rebuild it in three days, save Yourself! If You are the Son of God, come down from the cross." In the same way the chief priests also, along with the scribes and elders, were mocking Him"…
 
"The robbers who had been crucified with Him were also insulting Him with the same words."  (Matthew 27:37-44)
 
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Lies and deception are nothing new:
 
Just as the serpent planted seeds of doubt and lies about what God commanded, many perpetrators of violence use the same tactics. Battered women will hear false affirmations such as, "It is your fault, isn't it?" Or, "Tell your family that you bumped into a door. That is how you bust your lip, right?" 
 
Sadly, too many women will fall into the trap of lies and deception. They will tell their loved ones their busted lip was due to their clumsiness. They will learn a lifetime of lying for their batterers, and try to cast doubt upon what really happened to them. 
 
Over time, battered women learn the ways of their aggressors, fall into the violence trap, and they are often sentenced to very long jail terms.
 
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Proverbs 22:24 and 25 gives us very sound advice:
 
"Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself."
 
Anger and hot-tempers in a man should never be ignored, no matter how cute he is, or deceptively charming he pretends to be. Snakes are charming, cunning, and very treacherous. When that little boy, in the body of a man, cannot have his way with you or gain total control over you, you will pay the price.
 
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Domestic violence and abuse are escalating in our homes, because Satan knows that his time is not long. He has always hated God and His creation. Saints, we are at war! The war that took place in heaven is now the war on earth. Satan lost the war in heaven, but Jesus Christ won the final victory when He shed His blood for us. Unfortunately, we have numerous causalities on our side of the battle lines.
 
Why? For one thing, preachers do not preach the Word as they should. I am not against prosperity preaching, for God delights in the prosperity of His children. But how will money benefit a dying soul? How will money bring peace within our homes? How will money stop violent abusers from torturing their families?
 
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More preaching and teaching should be aimed at our struggles with the evil forces of darkness, the unseen world that Satan controls. Volumes could and should be written and taught. Perhaps God will use my mind to write about spiritual warfare as well. Let’s pray that He does.
 
1- Hebrews 4:12
 
 

If your preacher doesn't teach against domestic violence, I challenge you to respectfully ask that this will become a topic of interest. You will be surprised to know how many women in your congregation are being abused. Be the first in your ladies' bible class to teach about domestic violence. I pray that God will give you courage.

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Scripture taken from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE®,© Copyright 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation - Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org)
 
Also using scripture from the KJV where noted.
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IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED!
 
Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
 
To learn more about the Hotline, please click on the following link:
 
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